To The Modern Day Woman

*breathes, stretches, shakes, lets it go*

aww buddy. . its been a minute. How yall been? What’s new? For those who have kids, how are they? Haven’t rapped with you guys in a loooooong time. I just been somewhere collecting my thoughts. Making sure I was sure of what I thought I was sure of. But yeah. Its definitely good to be back. Felt like the break was a nice one for real. Lol look at me, stalling. Without further ado. Here’s my blog. The Psychoanalysis of the Modern Day Woman.

Of course we know its 2010. A lot of things have changed over the years. Things aren’t as easy as it was back then. In those days, all you had to do was get a girl a pack of nowalaters and pass her a note “do you like me? Check 1[ ]yes [ ]no” lol. But in today’s time, it’s a whole different ball game. Nowadays, females want a man that can support her and her kids. Also, female come with a lot of baggage from recent relationships. Not saying its ok for females to use this as an excuse because the past is the past and we cant be held accountable for what has happened. At the same time, I’m not saying don’t have your guard up. Because nobody wants to be hurt, its not a good feeling. Women need to realize today that not everybody is out here to hurt you and there’s actually some good men. “He was so good to me in the beginning but when we got in a relationship, things changed”. I hear that so much, its kills me. That just goes to show that you jumped in the relationship too soon. Start off as friends first then work your way up to a relationship. You don’t necessarily have to say “I love you” as soon as yall get together. If you don’t feel it, don’t rush it. Then there’s the females that expect the guy to be perfect. These females are the ones that get hurt the most because they expect/want so much but end up disappointed when they don’t find it in that guy. You will know these females by the following signs. 1) Constant negative updates in facebook/myspace statuses. 2)Always bitter. 3) Angry indirect tweets. 4) The quoting of angry/sad song lyrics. These females tend to over react to every minor issue or discrepancy. They also tend to shut the person they have feeling for out but still complain. When in actuality all they need to do is set aside their pride and talk to that person to work out that issue. To bring up a point I made recently in this post, females who have emotional baggage from the past. I often hear females say “its not my fault, I been hurt before and I’m afraid this is going down the same path. The truth is. . EVERYBODY BEEN HURT BEFORE! Lol unless you’re like some super human or you live in a perfect world where pain doesn’t exist. So don’t let that be a crutch on why you do the things you do. Because if that was the case, if we did things because of our past, I’m pretty sure there would be much worst things us men could do. *wipes the sweat from my forehead* whoo this is getting intense lol. But on a serious note, ladies, never make a man your everything because when he leaves, you’re left with nothing. And that’s a terrible feeling and trust me I would know because I’m speaking from experience. Every female is beautiful in their own way. You don’t have to be in a bad relationship. I often hear females say “I love him too much to let him go”. If you love somebody and they hurt you, then they don’t love you and you don’t love yourself. You have to realize that your number 1 priority is you. Its ok to be in a relationship and commit yourself to it. Just as long as that relationship is worth it. Three things a man owe a female in a relationship. Love, trust and respect. Material things are a bonus, not a standard. Hopefully this blog changes a young lady. Give her a new perspective about herself and relationships. Welp till the next time my heart spring a leak. (in my jay-z voice) ITS YA BOY!!! –logs off